This makes me sick.

I'm completely disgusted in the way some girls my age present themselves, and in how their actions lead men to group us all together under the same twisted stereotypes. I'm a decent-looking girl who goes to college, so obviously I must love to get trashed and fuck random guys. Or maybe, just MAYBE I came here to learn, make friends, and better myself as a whole.

A few days ago a guy wrote in my facebook honesty box. I know it was a boy because his name came up in blue...if you have an honesty box you know what I'm talking about. Anyway, this person (who wrote to me anonymously) is shown as "???"...I am shown as "you."

???
You are really freaking hot!

you
That's very sweet of you. Who might you be?

???
Someone that wants to get all up on you!

you
Well you can't very well "get all up on me" if I don't know who you are, now can you?

???
True, I have seen you around Drake.

you
Have we met?

???
Not yet, but I'm sure I will see you around the Dorms

you
Do you live on my floor? How about we skip the bullshit and you tell me your name?

???
Lol, you want to get right to the point I like that, but whats in it for me.

you
What kind of girl do you take me for?

???
lol

you
That's a little trashy don't you think? I'm not that kind of a girl. You could start by introducing yourself to me in person, maybe

???
Lol yeah thats true, your are not that kind of girl, but I hear that you can be a freak in bed.

you
And who did you hear that from?

???
That doesn't matter I just want to know if its true lol ;)

you
That's really none of your business.


???
Why don't you stop by my room tonight and we can get to know each other, you never know where the night might end ;)

you
That's ridiculous.

???
Lol well thats to bad then, I was looking forward to hanging out with you this weekend, I guess I will just have to find another really really hot girl to hang out with.

you
So you're just interested in sex, then. That's what you're saying, isn't it?

???
Lol never you think I'm that kind of guy come on. I'm just messing with you I think we should hang out sometime you seem like a really cool girl thats all.

you
So why don't you tell me who you really are?

???
Where would be the fun in that.

you
Fun? Okay, let's play a game. Give me a clue, yeah?

???
what do I get in return?

you
What do you want in return?

???
Not really sure what you could give me... hmmm.... what would a guy want from a girl like you thats a hard thing to think of.

you
Do you have a screen name or something we could talk on? This honesty box thing is SUPER lame.

???
lol I will have to make up a new one just for you.

you
Are you going to? IM me, my sn is "AudialSunshine"


At this point, we signed on AIM and further discussed the issue at hand. Part of me is sickened by the fact that I continued to talk to this shallow excuse for a man. The bold selections prove my point. Observe.


armadillothuder9 (12:37:06 AM): hi
audialsunshine (12:37:37 AM): hey you
armadillothuder9 (12:39:24 AM): I bet you look cute when u are mad
audialsunshine (12:39:46 AM): So this is fun and all, but how about telling me who you are?
armadillothuder9 (12:40:03 AM): oh I don't see where the fun in that would be
armadillothuder9 (12:40:19 AM): lol I bet all this is making you even madder
audialsunshine (12:40:32 AM): I'm not angry
audialsunshine (12:40:35 AM): just intrigued
audialsunshine (12:40:39 AM): So how about a clue?
armadillothuder9 (12:41:00 AM): A clue hmm yes a clue but we still need to figure out whats in it for me
audialsunshine (12:43:48 AM): Just give me a clue kiddo
armadillothuder9 (12:43:59 AM): ok im 20
audialsunshine (12:44:08 AM): Mmmk, sophomore?
armadillothuder9 (12:44:26 AM): nope
audialsunshine (12:44:35 AM): freshman?
armadillothuder9 (12:44:40 AM): nope
audialsunshine (12:44:43 AM): junior??!
armadillothuder9 (12:44:49 AM): lol nope
audialsunshine (12:44:56 AM): what the helllll
audialsunshine (12:44:59 AM): You're a senior?
armadillothuder9 (12:45:11 AM): well I am a smart guy you know
audialsunshine (12:45:43 AM): Where have you seen me?
armadillothuder9 (12:45:52 AM): around
audialsunshine (12:46:15 AM): But we've never met?
armadillothuder9 (12:46:22 AM): nope
audialsunshine (12:46:38 AM): No classes together?
armadillothuder9 (12:46:45 AM): nope no classes
armadillothuder9 (12:47:56 AM): I hear you are a poker player
audialsunshine (12:48:00 AM): I am
audialsunshine (12:48:06 AM): Are you in poker club?
armadillothuder9 (12:48:16 AM): nope
audialsunshine (12:48:21 AM): Who did you hear it from?
armadillothuder9 (12:48:29 AM): A friend
audialsunshine (12:48:39 AM): So a friend of yours knows me?
armadillothuder9 (12:48:46 AM): yeah they do
audialsunshine (12:48:52 AM): Can you tell me who the friend is?
armadillothuder9 (12:49:02 AM): now what kind of fun would that be
audialsunshine (12:49:13 AM): Okay, how does your friend know me?
armadillothuder9 (12:49:34 AM): through poker club and the dorms
armadillothuder9 (12:50:54 AM): you are getting close
armadillothuder9 (12:51:00 AM): how about I get something now
audialsunshine (12:51:05 AM): What do you want?
armadillothuder9 (12:51:21 AM): how about a sexy pic of you
audialsunshine (12:51:28 AM): That's incredibly trashy.
armadillothuder9 (12:51:37 AM): it doesnt have to be
audialsunshine (12:51:39 AM): I don't have any of those, buddy.
audialsunshine (12:54:28 AM): You'll just have to keep giving me clues, I guess...
armadillothuder9 (12:54:34 AM): no no
audialsunshine (12:54:45 AM): Well then you'll have to think of something else
armadillothuder9 (1:00:26 AM): not really happy with that
audialsunshine (1:01:12 AM): Well I'm not a tramp.
audialsunshine (1:01:23 AM): who's your friend in poker club?
armadillothuder9 (1:01:37 AM): oh he is not in poker club
armadillothuder9 (1:01:42 AM): do you know scott
audialsunshine (1:01:46 AM): scott who?
=armadillothuder9 (1:02:36 AM): buchowski
audialsunshine (1:02:53 AM): I don't think so, how does he know me?
armadillothuder9 (1:03:10 AM): he goes to school with you
audialsunshine (1:03:19 AM): Do you go to Drake?
armadillothuder9 (1:04:19 AM): yea
audialsunshine (1:04:35 AM): Mmmk, has Scott met me?
armadillothuder9 (1:04:38 AM): only in the summer though
armadillothuder9 (1:04:44 AM): yes
audialsunshine (1:04:51 AM): You go here over the summer?
audialsunshine (1:04:54 AM): I'm so confused.
audialsunshine (1:04:57 AM): How has Scott met me?
armadillothuder9 (1:05:06 AM): I forget
armadillothuder9 (1:05:08 AM): lol
armadillothuder9 (1:05:16 AM): this is really funny now
audialsunshine (1:05:24 AM): Why?
armadillothuder9 (1:05:39 AM): cuz I'm driving you crazy thats y
audialsunshine (1:05:50 AM): So are you at Drake now?
armadillothuder9 (1:06:08 AM): nope
audialsunshine (1:07:03 AM): How have you seen me around if you're not at Drake?
armadillothuder9 (1:08:58 AM): I go and visit friends there duh!
audialsunshine (1:09:25 AM): Where are you from?
armadillothuder9 (1:09:43 AM): Mn
armadillothuder9 (1:09:58 AM): havent lived there for a while though
audialsunshine (1:11:30 AM): So are you ever going to tell me who you are?
armadillothuder9 (1:11:51 AM): oh maybe. so your good in bed
audialsunshine (1:12:58 AM): Who said that?
armadillothuder9 (1:13:37 AM): no one i just figured you were are you saying that you are not?
audialsunshine (1:13:47 AM): I'm saying that that's none of your business
audialsunshine (1:14:01 AM): Why would you figure that I am?
armadillothuder9 (1:14:53 AM): Look at you your a good looking girl that is into the whole college thing
audialsunshine (1:15:29 AM): What does "into the whole college thing" mean? Not all college girls are like the chicks on girls gone wild, my friend.
armadillothuder9 (1:16:29 AM): duh just that I know you have been know to tip a few back from time to time
audialsunshine (1:16:45 AM): I actually don't drink, so I think you're mistaken.
armadillothuder9 (1:16:56 AM): whatever
armadillothuder9 (1:17:05 AM): well you have a good night now.
audialsunshine (1:17:17 AM): ah, because I'm not a drunk whore you don't want to talk anymore?

Honestly, what makes guys think it's okay to talk to girls like this? This is far from the first time I've been spoken to in this manner, and I'm repulsed by it. It's shocking and disturbing to me that young women are thought of the way that we are, and that so many girls continue to reinforce these stereotypes with their actions. Boys, listen up: we're not all drunks, and some of us can keep our legs together. Think before you speak.